I meant to do this yesterday but I was re-arranging furniture and cleaning for a long time after work yesterday night and didn’t get to it.
I thought I would write a little list of things I have learned over the course of my life time, some are just observations, but I think they’re valuable, and maybe one or two of you will come away from it with a leg up.
The first ones are about internet and internet behaviours. Seeing how I was NOT born into this internet thing, I got to see it develop over time from the clunky versions from AOL, to cable internet and being able to watch old cartoons on line, awesomeness.
1) Don’t lie on the internet. Just don’t do it. Never lie. Seriously, people WILL find out, and they will call you out on it. I am not admitting to having lied on the internet myself, I may be accused of half truths, but not out right falsehoods, but I see other’s catching flack for lies, and I really feel for those people. I am not saying tell people everything, just don’t lie. Don’t lie about who you are, your age, where you work, etc. Someone somewhere will know it’s a lie, and call you out on it. It’s just a bad habit. Naturally it goes for real life, too, but that’s another thing entirely.
2) Don’t post anything you don’t want someone else to see, read, etc. People can literally lose their jobs over what they post on line. Granted, I think that’s unfair (unless you’re actually doing something vile and illegal, like kiddie porn, seriously, get help, stay away from kids, and stop that.) And if you ARE going to post questionable material make really sure no one can trace it back to you, really REALLY sure. These days employers make your personal life their business, and until that bullshit stops it’s better you play their game.
3) There are actual real life people with real feelings behind those fake internet names and One-Piece icons, treat them like real people. You never know who you are talking to, and what kind of bullshit they’re dealing with. Just try to be as civil as possible. You do not HAVE to respond to nasty posts, you can ignore them entirely. You never know if you’re baiting a genuinely crazy person who might try to track you down for real and murder the shit out of you. Just better play it safe and not stoop to their level. Just keep this in mind, all those anon’s are either possibly serial killers with too much time on their hands, or maybe they’re your favorite celebrity hiding behind a fake name to keep the fan boys/girls at bay (probably not, but it’s a good way to not get yourself in trouble).
Ok, now that’s over with here are some other things.
4) Older does not always translate into wiser. Yes, they could be wiser, but they could also have just stayed in the same town their entire lives and did nothing but play video games. I have observed time and time again much much younger people who have had a great deal more life experience than myself. I mean, I don’t think it’s a good thing, often times it tears me up what some people have had to go through, I wonder how they even make it that far sometimes. The only definitely thing older people can be counted on for, is they have had a lot more time screw things up.
5) If you have to pick between a kind friend and a smart friend, pick the kind friend. Genuine kindness is so rare these days when it seems like there is a race to be the most obnoxious asshole on the planet.
6) Don’t take anything for granted, especially your health,and your friends. No matter how healthy you are, or think you are, you will get ill, or injured, it’s only a matter of time, so don’t get cocky about it. That’s just biology, you will die someday. You will need people, no matter how much you don’t want to need them, so take care of your friends, and make sure they have a good reason to help you out when you’re in a jam.
7) You’re not as smart as you think you are. Here is one lesson older folks usually figure out. There is so much to know, that it’s not possible to learn it all. And for every new thing you learn you eventually realize there is just too much knowledge to take in in your limited life time. You know the saying, the wise man knows he knows nothing. It takes a few decades to see the truth in that saying, but if you will just take my word for it on this one.
8) People are complicated. In high school I often heard my peers say how “everyone else is the same” and I never agreed with them. Sure, there were similarities in tastes in music and clothes in the various groups, but I thought they were individually very different from one another.
9) Want for others what you want for yourself. So don’t vote against people when you have the chance. It’s not just about you, your family, your country, your party, your religion, etc.
10) Take it easy on yourself, you can’t save the world single handedly, and no one expect you to. Just help when you can with what you have, and that’s all anyone can expect of you.